You’ve Lost that Lovin’ Feelin’

Jul 23

One Sunday afternoon during college, a pile of us headed to Cracker Barrel after church.  There were so many of us, we couldn’t all sit at one table.  I sat at a table for four with my boyfriend, my roommate, and another friend.  The place was packed.  Everybody and their best friend’s cousin was having Sunday lunch at the Cracker Barrel.  We were waiting for our food to arrive when I felt a tap on my shoulder.  I turned to see one of my man’s friends.  Four other guys crowded up behind him.  I should have known by the devilish grins that I was in trouble. 


I hear, “Excuse me, Miss.”  Then he turns to confer with the group behind him, “Has she lost it?”  They nod, “Yeah, she’s lost it.”  I realize that I am about relive a scene from the old movie Top Gun where the same scenario takes place.


Our friend croons, “You never close your eyes anymore when I kiss your lips.  And there’s no tenderness like before in your fingertips.”  The do-wap guys start do-wapping.  “You’re trying hard not to show it,”  everyone joins in, “BABY.  But Baaaabyyy, believe me I know it.  You’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’.  Whoa, that lovin’ feelin’.  You’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’, now it’s gone, gone, gone, whoooooooaaaaaoooo.”  Finger snapping starts and all of Cracker Barrel’s customers erupt with applause.  The guys were trying to embarrass me, but I don’t embarrass too easily.

 (If you have never seen this scene from Top Gun, be sure to watch the video at the bottom.)  


When the guys made their way back to their own table, a little man sitting across from us said, “You’re going to have to choose one of them honey.”  I laughed.  I had already chosen.  My boyfriend later became my husband. 


But that memory still makes me smile.  Marriage, my friends, is hard work.  It is a choice to have a good marriage and a concerted effort to have a great one.  Have you lost that lovin’ feelin’?  On a sizzle-o-meter, where would you rate your marriage today? Marriages right and left are falling by the wayside – that includes Christian marriages.  Satan will rear his ugly head anywhere he can.  Don’t give him a spot in your marriage to do so.


I know sometimes I get so caught up in taking care of the kids, the house, and my writing I forget to take care of my spouse.  I think we’ll talk and spend time together at the end of the day.  But when the day’s end arrives, I have nothing left.   


Make some time today for your sweetie.  Ask what you can do for them today.  Don’t let them come home singing You’ve Lost that Loving Feeling.


I’m going to call my man right now and tell him – …well, wouldn’t you like to know?  


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  • Darlene Jul 23 at 12:05 pm

    How sweet! You are so right about this. My husband travels and this is sooo new to us. When he gets home I am so ready to go out and he just wants to be home. He is soo tired. We are making new adjustments …which is not easy. Our daughter is leaving in a few weeks for college and I will be home alone and now I find out that I may not have a job in a couple of weeks. Talking about being lonely and scared. I know God has a plan…I just wish I knew what it was! Thanks for reminding me to not give up on my marriage, family and me!

  • Amy Wyatt Jul 23 at 12:09 pm

    Hmmm… God wouldn’t be calling you to teach a marriage class would he? 🙂
    One of my favorite movie scenes of all time by the way. It ranks right up there with Old Time Rock and Roll in Risky Business.

  • BethAnne Jul 23 at 12:36 pm

    GReat reminder today for me who has very little time and nothing left at the end of the day. This theme (being more attentive and appreciative of my hubs) has been drilled into my head over the past few weeks through other people, through blogs, through Sunday School, etc. Think God is trying to tell me something????? 😉

  • ocean mommy Jul 23 at 1:32 pm

    I am cracking up reading this story! I would have been under the table! That is great.

    Love the application here. So true. I try to remind myself often that I was a wife before I was a mommy and that one day…these little ones will be gone and it will be the two of us again. I don’t want to look across the table and NOT really know who that person is! Does that make sense?

    Love you and thank God for what He is doing in and through you!

  • The Stokes Family Jul 23 at 3:01 pm

    LOVE it–and only YOU wouldn’t be embarrassed, I would have DIED (or been under the table with you, Stephanie!)

    Great reminder and application!


  • Carol Jul 24 at 9:36 am

    Good one, Carol! Thanks for the reminder!!!

  • Carmen Jul 24 at 12:40 pm

    YOU are hilarious! ('we need some yachad up in here!')

    I cracked up when I read that last night…

    and believe you, me…I do know about the absence of yachad with my four monkeys! I shall go & pray…

  • Amy Wyatt Jul 24 at 10:29 pm

    I left something for you over at my site.
    Come by to visit.

  • Peggy Jul 25 at 12:31 am

    Bless you Carol…I’m sure that you have not lost that loving feeling or that you don’t get embarrassed easily! Since you just had a fabulous anniversary…you still should be kindling fine…that fire of love!
    But YOU are so right! Keep that Love alive girl! and enjoy! Baaaabyyyyyyy!
    I can’t even answer your sizzle ? cuz satan had his ugly way in mine but I’m still standing and praying for God’s will be done! Be blessed!

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